Clearly, people in general have different ways of looking at things.
Recently I heard a TED-X talk about political liberals and conservatives and how they talk past one another without hearing what is being said to them. The premise of the talk was that we have to use certain language to make ourselves understood, or our words will fall on deaf ears.
According to this speaker, when a conservative is speaking with a liberal, he must use words associated with
When a liberal speaks with a conservative, he must use words associated with
respect for authority,
Actually being able to achieve this in a conversation probably won’t be easy and might take some practice in finding the right words. The speaker in the TED-X talk didn’t elaborate much, maybe because of time restrictions, so we are on our own to work out the language that we use in trying to speak to our counterpart and actually be heard. In return, are we listening so as to understand this person’s worldview and its merits? In looking at these two different approaches, it seems to me that one is more emotion-oriented than the other, but the degree to which this creates tension may depend on the personality of the speaker and/or the listener. Be careful here….
If you give this a try, let me know what happened. Did the two of you actually connect in any meaningful way (arguing and fisticuffs excluded)? Are you still speaking to one another? On a more positive note: might you continue the dialogue again sometime?